Approximately 10% of the general population has engaged in kink behaviors at some point in their lives.

You may just be starting to explore this part of yourself and have some questions.  Along with this exploration, you may be experiencing some shame and not sure how to share it with others.  On top of that, you have mixed feelings of enjoying yourself simultaneously!  For the more seasoned kinksters, you have been practicing for a while, but something has changed for yourself, your dynamic, or your relationship.  But what it all comes down to is who you can share this dilemma or part of you that will truly understand what you are going through.  

You may be in a place where:

-You are trying to find out if your desires are more than a fantasy

-You are new to BDSM and need guidance

-You are navigating a new or existing BDSM dynamic

-You experienced a consent violation or are unsure if you have

-You want to stop feeling shame around your kink or fetish

-You’re not sure how to tell your partner you are kinky

-You’re partner just “came out” as kinky to you

-You are wanting to use kink in a healing way

-You are experiencing distress due to a fetish or unwanted sexual behavior

You might find yourself thinking:

•  “Is this normal?”

• “Should I be doing this?”

• “Where do I go next?”

• “Will someone understand?”

• “Why can’t I just please them?”

• “Why don’t they just listen to me?”

• “Why don’t I feel like a true Dom(Master, Owner)?”

• “What if I change?  What does that mean for the relationship?”

Together we will look at where you are and areas you want to strengthen.  I will use sex-positive multi-technique approaches and provide you with helpful tools and solutions that are knowledgeable, judgment-free, and incorporate all aspects of yourself.  We will move you forward as I continue to assist and problem-solve with you so you can reach the goals you desire.  

-Healing is Possible-

Need Help? I’d Love To Speak With You.

My areas of specialty include:

D/s and M/s relationship dynamics

Sex Workers: Pro Dom, Pro-Domme, Pro sub, Fetish content creators, Fetish model

Fetishes: Consensual Non-Consent (rape fetish, rape play), AB/DL (Adult Baby/Diaper Lover), spanking, pup play, cuckolding, voyeurism, exhibitionism, body parts, clothing, objects, hypnosis, furry, etc.

Providing BDSM Therapy and Kink Therapy in San Diego, I understand the ongoing stressors, fear of rejection, and stigma the community faces.  I am committed to helping clients of all gender, relational, and sexual diversity.

-Build A Stronger You-

Need Help-What Should You Do Next?

Looking for a BDSM therapist who can walk you through what you are going through? Contact me at therapy@juliaschiffmanmsw.com.  I offer a Free 20-minute consultation to get to know you and your needs.